Women ought to be strong and stop depending on guys for a forever!

I was reading this article online on Amnesty US which says

Nicaraguan Women Demand Their Rights In Face of Rampant Sexual Violence (Article taken from Amnesty US)

Women and girls in Nicaragua are at risk.

In its most recent global report, Amnesty International reported on the high rates of violence against women and girls in Nicaragua, especially rape and sexual violence.  Such violence is rooted in a global culture of discrimination, which systematically devalues the lives, rights, and voices of women.

In Nicaragua, girls are especially vulnerable to rape and sexual violence.  Two thirds of rape victims are under 18, and the most common cases are for girls between the ages of 13 and 15.

Most young survivors of rape get little or no government support to rebuild their lives. The government has so far failed to fulfill its duty to prevent sexual abuse and provide care and support to survivors.

These devastating acts of sexual violence and rape are part of a broader trend of the devaluation of women and girls in Nicaragua.  Since 2008, the government has enforced a total abortion ban, criminalizing abortion in all circumstances; there are no exceptions for rape, incest, or when a woman’s life is at risk. For some women and girls made pregnant by rape, the idea of giving birth is unbearable.  But in Nicaragua, women don’t have a choice.

Survivors of rape and sexual abuse must be free to make their own decisions about how to manage the consequences of rape and begin to rebuild their lives. Rape must not be the event that defines the rest of their lives.

The government’s refusal to lift the total abortion ban, its refusal to increase steps to prevent sexual abuse and rape of women and girls, and its refusal to provide adequate care and support to survivors is a failure to ensure women and girl’s freedom from violence, freedom of autonomy, and freedom from discrimination, and it violates their fundamental human rights.  It represents a fundamental refusal to listen to the voices of women and girls.

In Nicaragua, those who speak out against such discrimination are at risk: women human rights defenders in Nicaragua working to promote women’s rights and sexual and reproductive rights have been increasingly harassed by officials, showing the government’s refusal to hear the voices of women and girls.

Yet, despite these obstacles and risks of violence, the women of Nicaragua will not allow such violence and discrimination to silence them, and they are demanding their voices be heard.

Women and girls march in Nicaragua on September 28 to demand the repeal of the total abortion ban and an end to violence against women and girls.  You can join them by sending a message of solidarity through the online butterfly action.

As Martha Mangúi, Executive Coordinator of the Nicaraguan Alliance of women’s Centers, explained:

“The butterfly for us is a symbol of the desire to realize our dreams, spread our wings… fighting with strength for our rights.”

Together, we can help Nicaraguan women realize their dreams of freedom from violence and their full human rights!

I am so happy that the Nicaraguan women are speaking up for themself instead of being in silence after getting rapped.This is to show that Women are no longer known as being weak! We are not.I don’t think I can understand why women who are so fortunate still want to be in love and look for Mr Prince Charming after seeing that people in much unfortunate women in other countries like in Middle East and African countries.

I do believe in Adam and Eve becoming as one but with such happening around the world,I don’t think that becoming as one is that important anymore as a part and parcel of human life.But ladies ought to be treated right.We are not for mens to trash us and then dump us aside like a piece of junk.We are no junk.I do not deny that there is a psychical need for each human being.But it is not till the extent whereby guys can trash us women like junk.We may be fragile but not all are fragile.I am one who do not believe in women being fragile for the world now.We are strong enough to hold up the sky. Ladies can you share with me why do you want to be protected,loved and be in a relationship and being married?

I will create my own success…I will never relay on guys..Time is running..I have no time to be bothered with such fooliness..The world is in my own hands..How about you?

Leaving on a Jet Plane…

It’s time…for me to say out or should I say shout out loud…that…I am leaving on a Jet Plane…Today Midnight.…

Yes,I am off again to the land of  tulips, hunks,fries,waffles,stamps and nice people..Liechtenstein,Gemany,Belgium,Holland and Austria…So people,if you want to reach me for those who know me,you got my email so mail me and I am always reachable at mine Facebook and the cellphone..That’s if you really do know me…

Busy Busy..My flight is at 1.20 midnight today…

To my dears loved ones: You know you are missed by me..Have fun while I am gone…

To You although I know that you will never read it…

Ever since that happened, life has not been the same for me and you I believe. Life for me now is much worse than before. I am a clown who acts happy in front of others be it family,friends etc. I know what I want but yet it’s something which I can never have.It’s tearing me up very badly so badly that you wouldn’t be able to imagine the state I am in now..Each time, I see you so happy, I really feel that happiness for you. I can only share your happiness secretly. I know how tough things are going on for you although I might not be there to share with you. But I hope that if you knew that you need a shoulder to cry on or count on,Just turn around and I’ll be there.

I know you want nothing for me to be in a part of your life anymore. But do you know that of what we had,all these pains and memories are causing me tremendous effects. When I knew that I couldn’t never be cured and it is going to be with me for life and that it’s going to haunt me the rest of my life. The first thing I told myself,Thank you..Thank you..for giving me such a great gift which you left behind.Something which you left behind but yet there’s nothing I can do..I wish that I really want to erase every single memories to do with you. If it takes all cost, I am even much more willing to erase my memories even at the cost of my life. I am really going crazy.Some said that it’s your fault for causing me into this State but to me,it’s not your fault. This state I’m in now is a part and parcel of my life and will be a part and parcel of my life forever.

I am sorry…But I can’t help it …If I say I don’t love you and the feelings have died,I am lying through my teeth…

To you…

It is time like this..whereby I want to be beside you and hug you and tell you..I am so sorry that I cannot do anything for you..But my dear,no words can represent what I want to do for you..I got no idea what can I do for you..At this very moment,this very minute, I felt so lost that I do not know what can I do and what should I do for you..This is making me feel so useless…But my dear…I will be here always supporting you and rooting for you for whichever decision you make..I will always be here if you need a pillow to fall on..Dear..I am helpless to you at this point but I will be here for you..If you need someone to vent your anger on, I am here.If you need someone to listen to your crappy days, I am here…In short, I am always here if you turn around…You know that I simply am crazy in love with you…I love you…

Leaving on a Jet Plane…

It’s time…for me to say out or should I say shout out loud…that…I am leaving on a Jet Plane…Tomorrow Morning…

Yes,I am off again to the land of food heaven and nice people..Taiwan…So people,if you want to reach me for those who know me,you got my email so mail me and I am always reachable at mine facebook and the cellphone..That’s if you really do know me…

Time to hit the sack…Waiting up at like freaking 3.45am!Yes..My flight is at 8.30 in the morning…

To my dears loved ones: You know you are missed by me..Have fun with Vanessa while I am gone…

To my dear:You are so sweet..I am so gonna miss you although you are by my side…with me..I miss you…

Relationship is not the basic and Physiological needs..

It’s an interesting fact that girls thinks and believe that relationship is the physiological and basic needs in our life…Well I mean relationship, I am talking about Boy and girl relationship..I learnt about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs when I was studying Human Resource..Most people thinks that it is a theory..But it is not a theory but a fact..Why would I say so…You may wonder..

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs talks about the needs of humans..The hierarchy suggests that people are motivated to fulfill basic needs before moving on to other needs..

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is most often displayed as a pyramid. The lowest levels of the pyramid are made up of the most basic needs, while the more complex needs are located at the top of the pyramid. Needs at the bottom of the pyramid are basic physical requirements including the need for food, water, sleep and warmth. Once these lower-level needs have been met, people can move on to the next level of needs, which are for safety and security.As people progress up the pyramid, needs become increasingly psychological and social. Soon, the need for love, friendship and intimacy become important. Further up the pyramid, the need for personal esteem and feelings of accomplishment take priority.

There are five different levels in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs:

Physiological Needs
These include the most basic needs that are vital to survival, such as the need for water, air, food and sleep. Maslow believed that these needs are the most basic and instinctive needs in the hierarchy because all needs become secondary until these physiological needs are met.

Security Needs
These include needs for safety and security. Security needs are important for survival, but they are not as demanding as the physiological needs. Examples of security needs include a desire for steady employment, health insurance, safe neighborhoods and shelter from the environment.

Social Needs
These include needs for belonging, love and affection. Maslow considered these needs to be less basic than physiological and security needs. Relationships such as friendships, romantic attachments and families help fulfill this need for companionship and acceptance, as does involvement in social, community or religious groups

Esteem Needs
After the first three needs have been satisfied, esteem needs becomes increasingly important. These include the need for things that reflect on self-esteem, personal worth, social recognition and accomplishment.

Self-actualizing Needs
This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. People at this level are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others and interested fulfilling their potential.

Each and every humans need the first basic needs which is air,sleep,food,shelter, warmth and water.  Even animals needs that let alone talk about humans. If we humans can’t even fulfill the basic needs of the 1st level which is the Physiological needs. We won’t never ever be able to move on to the next level.Once this need is satisfied then one will be able to move onto the next level,the security needs which is protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability.Further on, once the security needs is accomplished,humans beings would move onto the love and belonging needs which consist of work group, family, affection, relationships.Followed by the esteem needs which are mainly self-esteem,personal worth,social recognition. Last but not least, self-actualizing needs talks about people being self-aware and being less concerned about opinions of others and interested in fulfilling their potential.

It’s a fact that humans need the 1st basic needs, If we are to survive without it,we won’t be alive walking on this earth. Not only humans,animals too need the basic needs.Only by achieving and satisfying the first basic needs,then we would be able to move onto the next needs. How can one survive without sleeping or eating..Englighten me please if you are able to do that..Relationship is for sure not the physiological and basic needs as what most people think. In fact it is the third level of Maslow’s needs. Maslow does not states that saying relationship is a basic needs. Think can you survive on relationship in order for you to live…No?

Every girls want a guy to love her but that does not mean you can simply just jump on the wagon when some guy proclaim that he like you. What’s the reason behind for it? Think and ponder carefully? Is it because of money or sexual needs? Or simply because he love you? Girls, you don’t need a guy to make you happy. All you need is yourself to make yourself happy. You are the only one and the very one to make yourself happy and filled with joy. You don’t need some guy to love you in order to make you happy. That is totally wrong! In fact very wrong! Don’t assume you love him because he love you according to what he said.You don’t need to search for the right one or should I say you don’t need to search for a guy. He will appear when it’s time. The more you search, the more wrong one you meet into. It’s only when you stop searching and lead your life, that is when he turns up. As I mentioned before, you are who you are and the other party should love you for who you are. But not love you because they just want to satisfy their sexual needs. So girls, stop wanting prince charming coming riding in a white horse. Don’t bother to go around searching for prince charming. He will appear when time is right. You will attract guys when you are beautiful within yourself inside out…Relationships is not the basic and physiological needs.

Don’t pin your hopes on guys. I don’t deny the fact every girls want someone to love but not by being blindly in love without knowing if he is good or bad. You don’t accept the bad just because you need a life jacket that’s not the way..You are your own life jacket!

I’m sick…as in physically sick..Flu,Cough,Sore throat,Gastric.Last week was pretty bad since I cough like mad and it was really drama haha for the first time in my life which I though things only happen on drama actually happen to me which is coughing out blood. But thank god it was only once.Now it’s down to flu and cough.Gastric once in a while it likes to act up…For work,Things are ok..Busy…

Photography: I am happy with my shoots but I believe I got a way lot of room for improvement. I’m so loving him…He’s too amazing.It would be good if I got more lens…But that cost a bomb!

Love: Cindy, my love..My dear..I know you want me to write something about this topic..Very single haha! Nothing more than that..The relationship is neither here or there. Although I have to admit that person make me fall for him..That’s it..End of story…

How would you choose if both are your loved one?

I caught Aftershock this movie by the famous director of China Feng Xiaogang. This movie talks about the Great Earthquake in Tangshan,China.The world is cruel,it only take three seconds to smile but 30 years of sadness and pain.The movie started in 1976 in Tangshan,China,28 July. It is believed to be the greatest earthquake of the 20th century.This earthquake came so sudden that no one was expecting anything on a night which seems so peaceful. The number of deaths was 655,000 reported initially by China but then later on the number has been changed to around 240,000 to 255,000 deaths. A magnitude of 8.2 earthquake followed by a major 7.8 magnitude aftershock some 16 hours later after the first which increased the death toll.

The story start off about this family of four. A very typical family. Parents and twins siblings. The story kicks off with the dad and the twin siblings and they saw this huge number of fireflies flying away and it’s like hundred and thousands of thems.Sign number one of disaster is coming.Dad told the twins to bring the fan home first. The brother asked the dad for money to buy ice stick. After buying them, this bully came and snatch it away and the sister protected the brother and ran all the way home with the brother and the fan in hand and on the way running back into the room, brother took one of the tomatoes which mum soaked in the water and hid it. The brother was making noise about wanting the fan to be set up and then mum set it up and he wanted to blow himself off but the sister said let mum blow it first,she’s hot from all the cooking. Later that night, the brother said he wanted to eat tomatoes and sister said so too and mum went to the basin to get it but of course there’s only one and mum told sister to give it to brother and sister said he ate it earlier on,he’s lying. Mum said no,I’m not lying. There’s only one.

That very night, while everyone was sweet in their dreamland, the earthquake struck. Building and everything collapsed so quickly that you can’t imagine that you can see people trying to escape and be alive and the next moment you see them getting crashing and dead. The twins were sound asleep while the parents were busy in a way. In what way? Well, Go catch the movie and you will get what I mean. And the earthquake happen. The dad died while trying to save mum who was on her way to save the twins. Then the mum was forced to make a choice of saving the twins. She choose to save the brother in the end. Knowing that being deemed as a death person, the sister survived.

She was homeless,parentless, trying to over come everything which happen in her eyes. However, she was adopted by a caring solider, new family and life goes on for her. 32 years later, the horror happened in Sichuan , She grew up and because of the memories of Tangshan earthquake, she went back to help those in need of the Sichuan earthquake.

The movie synopsis :

When a mother is informed by the rescue team that, as her 7-year old twins are buried under the debris close to each other, digging one out would result in further collapse of the wreckage on the other, she is forced to make the most difficult decision of her life. As the clock ticked away, she finally ended her struggle and chose to save the boy, and though heartbroken, she had no idea her decision was overheard by the daughter. Deemed as a dead person, the little girl miraculously survived and was rescued after being buried for days. Suffering from the emotional shock of the disaster and the painful memory of her mother’s choice, she refused to reveal who she was. She was adopted by a young couple and later moved to the US, but shadowed by the traumatic experience from her childhood; she forever remained emotionally closed up.

When the Sichuan earthquake takes over 80,000 lives in 2008, she volunteers to join the rescue team and returns to her homeland, China. As she witnesses the tribulations people go through when a natural disaster takes place, she finally unlocks the pain she had felt all these years and finds forgiveness. She finally reunites with the mother and twin brother she had parted from after 32 years. A human drama about finding forgiveness, ‘Aftershock’ depicts not only the fatal tragedy that is brought on by natural disaster of great levels but also the strength and courage that is demonstrated when we are in face of extreme and devastating situations.

If you are the mother, who will you choose to save at that moment in time? The sister or the brother? I asked myself that. What would the outcome be if I choose the sister? Would she be the one who ended up with only one arm? Would she not be able to go to University and Canada? Would her life change for the better if she was the chosen one to get saved? In a way, I am glad that she didn’t get saved because later part of her life, it got better. She got married to a guy and lived in Canada. There’s this last part of the scene which was showed during the Sichuan earthquake. The mum had to make a choice of saving her daughter. In the end, the mum told the rescuers to amputate her daughter’s leg off because she does not want to let the rescuers die because she does not want to let their family be upset over their death while saving her daughter. If I am that mum that very moment, I believe I would have made the same decision too. I do not want anyone to die just because they are saving my daughter. Although it is heart wrenching to amputate her leg off and be regretted for the rest of her life. But still, I would make that decision.

It’s heart wrenching to be chosen over your brother and you are being deemed as dead and at the very same time, you hear that very clearly. It’s like you got sentenced straight to hell without any reason. The thing is you survived and one have to deal with life-bearing that pain. Bearing that pain for 32 years and having to unlock it after 32 years. This is all about forgiving and how one bears the pain for 32 years. How willing are you able to forgive someone? May it be family,friend or even your enemy? Only through forgiveness, then you are truly free. One should never bear hate.

Work: I finally got my dreamweaver CS4! Started editing. Today I spent the whole day editing the site manager english on what he wrote about the Vision 2015. I got the 5 overview done for the site and only one explanation for one view. I still have 4 more left to go. Can’t believe that got to edit a dutch guy english. His english well is like a recorder. He repeats all over again and the english he used is not a powerful punch-line.I need more time man! And crap they are taking so slow just to get me Flash CS3 for the project too! These IT people really do drive me crazy. First it was dreamweaver CS4 and then flash CS3 and I know it’s going to take ages to approve AuotCad Lite too.

Things : Yes,I’m happily attached with someone wonderful.He’s so amazing…This is to you.When I look into your eyes, I see the love you had for me.I know it was pure love you had for me for no one could ever love you the way you love me.It was love for us..that I never want to give away.